A favorite quote from Buddha about forgiveness

Can I look now?

Can I look now?

There are few of us that can say we have forgotten those who have slighted us.  When we feel wronged how do we handle it? The feeling of hurt can come from a stranger, a family member, a best friend, a spouse, a business or even from life itself.

I’ve been there for a long time, and getting past it is hard. Funny how we convince ourselves we are past things but usually we haven’t completely, albeit we do push it down,  we try not to think about it, but the veneer we place over our hurt is thin, and it is fragile ready to break to the surface.  I remember a fight I had once with a friend, I didn’t remember the reason why but I still held onto the hurt. How dumb am I?

Buddha quote –

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

Love yourself and let the hot coal go is a goal for all of us as we live our lives.

 

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You will never say “I Can’t” again once you meet Jen

Have you have met someone so inspiring that you are amazed? You know what I mean, someone who faces obstacles in daily living you can’t imagine, while you are unaware sometimes just blessed it is to have your whole health.

This will be a short post because I want you to watch the whole video, you will want to share it because it will touch you, and inspire.

Meet Jen, born without legs, it didn’t make her an invalid. Born without legs, she doesn’t feel sorry for herself. Born without legs she managed to play sports, and even be a champion.

Meet Jen, and never say you can’t again. You can if you try.

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Welcome To The Jungle… The Amazon Jungle!

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If you are planning your own trip to the Amazon soon, then you should read this. If you are not planning a trip to the Amazon then you should read this because it looks and sounds like a memory, adventure, … Continue reading

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What Sparks your memories?

Our minds are interesting organs. They retain our memories including poems we learned in school, songs we sang along with the radio (wrong lyrics and all).  I will be listening to a song I haven’t heard for decades but my brain can still revive the memories so I can sing along.

I was thinking of memory sparks today. Memory sparks are anything that makes you think of a certain person, song, or event. 

 donutOne spark for me is donuts, and it doesn’t matter what kind of donut either. When I see a donut I remember Jelly Bellies – it was small outlet under the Bentall Centre in Vancouver. The memory is myself and my Dad laughing at the name as we did our lunchtime stroll through the tunnel under the building. We laughed a lot on our walks and most of the time it didn’t seem to take much but to us it was laughable, and undoubtedly the best part of working downtown were the memories with my Dad.

Another spark for me is hay bales.I remember visiting the farm near Prince Albert when I was a skinny hay balesyoungster and Grandpa driving the tractor as we went out into the fields to collect bales. I was a healthy city kid but not used to toting bales but my Uncle ken strolled along at ground level and tossed hay bales up into the trailer where I nudged them into place, albeit after they bounced off me. Sun, fresh air, straw in my hair and Uncle Ken using a needle to take out a piece of wood under the skin in my hand. A memory of Grandpa, my Uncle Ken, and a special time and place. Sparks every time I see a bale of hay.

 

breadI’ve enjoyed a lot of fresh bread in my life but every time I do I remember living in Quesnel, and fresh bread baked at home by my Mom. My parents probably remember more practical things but I remember the smell of fresh bread in the home, the deep snowfalls, the ice rink of my very own,  the creek, learning to ride a two-wheeler, and so much more from those days in our little home. My Dad had a small motorcycle that I rode on the back of, my hands never got cold but his did. The memories of a child have to do with feeling safe, and loved. I have good memories as a child, sparked easily by a simple scent of bread.

lifesaver candyThis one is also a special sparker. Baba is my grandma on my Mom’s side. I was blessed with a close relationship to her, and she loved to share her home and time with me. Guido and Baba loved all their grandchildren I am sure, and we all have our own memories of time spent with them. I spent time with them one year after travelling back to Kindersley on the train. It was different from Vancouver, only one theatre, one drive in – Dog’n Suds I think it was called. It was a bit like Mayberry to me, and I remember the peacefulness of their side street, and the crab apples trees on the side of the house. I remember lots more but it is all sparked by something that she kept in her purse invariably sharing one of them with me, or two, and that is lifesaver candy, and almost always five flavors.  I think of Baba and smile whenever I see them. 

fingersThanks for reading my walk down memory lane. I am sure you have things that spark your memories also. 

Enjoy your saunters down memory lane as you think of those times growing up,  and time spent with someone you love that will never, never ever, be forgotten.

May it ever be so.

 

 

So long as the memory of certain beloved friends lives in my heart, I shall say that life is good.

Helen Keller

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10 Things that Traveling has Taught me

10 Things that Traveling has Taught me.

I like Janaline’s blog, it is cheerful, well written in her own adventurous first person style, and cool pictures. You will want to read her post above which really apply to life, not just travelling.

Also her recent Wordless Wednesday post had pictures of SNAKE WINE, yuk!,  I will pass on the wine tasting for sure, but the pictures of the snakes in the bottles have to be seen!

 

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Are you hiding in plain sight?

sit and relaxDuring the last few days I have had Robin Williams on my mind. The world now knows he has passed and probably his demise was because of his own choice. Sadly I think he hid his suffering in plain sight, as many people do, and maybe you do sometimes. 

In watching the Youtube interviews, and reading the stories about Robin’s ingenious wit, and manic energy I think I see a drowning man hiding splashing around. Over and over again he joked about  his alcohol use, and addiction problems but then quickly ducked his feelings behind his wit and dodges into vocal skits. He was deceiving us that he had it under control.

Robin was 63 and despite his worldwide acclaim I assume he was still a man of his time. I mean he didn’t want to appear weak or invite sympathy, and perhaps like many men (and women) felt he could soldier on, and his woundings were superficial and therefore he should be able to just “shuck” them off. 

Depression (Mental Illness) should be no different than high blood pressure, if you need help you get it, but that is not what people do.

lend a handRobin was never alone in mental illness although every sufferer may feel alone or even possibly ashamed.  Mental illness affects every Canadian as everyone has a friend, family member or a colleague affected. In fact 20% of Canadians (check the color link for more information) will personally experience mental illness in their lifetime – what is that statistic? It means that in your core family group of ten, two of your core group will have mental illness, maybe you, or me. 

Why are we shocked by suicide? Robin was wealthy, famous, successful but none of that matters with mental illness.  Suicide accounts for 24% of all deaths among 15-24 year olds, and 16% among 25-44 year olds. Suicide is one of the leading causes of death in both men and women from adolescence to middle age. NOTICE this – The mortality rate due to suicide among men is four times the rate among women.

If you are hiding in plain sight with depression today, or tomorrow or anytime. Please stop hiding and let someone help you. People around you do to throw you a life ring and pull you in. They love you and want to help you by being there. 

For the rest of us, let’s open our eyes, and hearts and learn the depression myths. Hide and Seek needs to stop.

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