Dodge a regret and say the words

I had had a non event day, nothing memorable, until I got the news.

eyeball,black and whiteA close friend had gone down to the inlet to swim in the ocean I knew and on the evening news the radio announced a drowning at that beach.

Dread gripped my heart, and I tried to phone and confirm if it was my friend, Mark.  I left messages, and my heart felt dry like paper.

Hours passed and I started to realize all the conversations I still wanted to have with him, especially one conversation where I told him he was like a younger brother to me, and I really liked to spend time with him, and that I loved him.

I felt real regret that I had never had that conversation.

Then the phone rang, it was him, and he was fine. Relief washed over me like a wave as I took a deep breath. I made plans then to have that conversation with Mark, and I did.


I think we all have a Mark, or someone like Mark who is important to us.  I don’t think it is just a guy thing that we neglect or shy away from expressing thankfulness and caring for friends.

winnie 2Let’s not stop with family this week, let’s let our extended family know that we love them too!

Your heart will feel better for it, that summer night years ago, mine sure did.

I learned a lesson that night.


Thanks for reading,  for taking a moment. I really have appreciated all the “likes” and comments this week.  🙂

I have included a beautiful Nat King Cole classic today – smile.  He sings so velvety.

About dfolstad58

I live in the South Okanagan. BC. I enjoy reading, exercise, toastmasters. spending time with my son, my daughter, & her husband , and my patient wife. I try to respond personally to every comment on my blog, and in this way I hope to get to know my readers a little bit and and am able to thank readers for their encouragement on what they liked and suggestions on what they would like to see me try in order to improve.
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11 Responses to Dodge a regret and say the words

  1. magarisa says:

    As human beings, we have such a strong tendency towards complacency, and constantly need to be reminded of life’s impermanence. Thank you for the helpful reminder and advice.


  2. A true and timely reminder to not take people for granted. Great post.


  3. Dalo 2013 says:

    Nothing is worse than thinking the worst, unless it actually is the worst ~ and the feeling of relief when things turn out OK (at least is a narrower perspective) is does autocorrect where your attention lies in life. Glad to hear all was OK.


  4. Lynn says:

    I am so glad your friend is okay & that you had the conversation you so wanted to have.

    I learned this lesson a number of years ago, to not miss the opportunity to let those in your life know just how much they mean to you. I wrote about it awhile back, prompted through the Daily Prompt. Have a read if you like:

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  5. Reblogged this on Cat in the Cactus and commented:
    A great post from “dfolstad58” and a reminder to tell someone you love them before it’s too late. I Reblogged this post because …


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