I attended a 50th birthday bash yesterday evening. Doug definitely has a wild side! It was awesome to see him kick of his heels, and be boisterous. Doug is more than a loyal friend, he is multi-talented, has a wonderful sense of humor, and challenges all of those who work him to not limit ourselves.
Thanks Doug! I can’t wait for the next party!
Check out some fun, feisty posts at Laughter is Catching – click o-rooney right there!
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12 Things That Movies Have Taught Me About Life….
Thanks to Sarah! Sarah may not know where Penticton, BC is but she is a lovely, successful blogger, AND former child actress.
I enjoyed reading her blog, and will have to return and do so again.
The above link I read was so cute, and I loved her comment about being picky about shoes, chuckle!
Sarah, if you read this, Pretty please let me know where you find the lovely old fashioned pictures in the home page right hand margin, and you are welcome to check out any of my posts!
One internet source I read often is called Simple Marriage – the discussions on this site are invariably thought provoking and interesting.
The latest discussion is about “Nice Guys” and I suspect while I am not in complete agreement with his comments – he definitely gives his readers sometime to “chew over“.
Check out the BONUS POINTS THEORY I think he finds fault with “good deeds” for wrong motivation. I am in agreement with that.
I think it can be a recognition need for men; most men do enjoy doing good deeds for their spouse and family. The problem arises if the need for recognition isn’t met. The same goes for anyone. Recognition is HUGE, give it freely – it all goes back to remembering to say PLEASE and THANK YOU like we were told when we were 5.
Don’t say “why should I thank them, they should be doing blank and blank, it’s their job”. Maybe that is true, but whether you are taking out the garbage, whether your doctor is getting paid for helping you or not, I suggest “recognition” and manners will get you far!
The article also promotes seeking to be a “better you“. I like this concept. I think that is a motivation I can relate to. If I want to be in better physical shape; then I have to do something because I want to feel better about myself or for my health, but NOT because some person tells me that I “should”. {in fact a book I am reading talks about removing “should” and not to use that word – comment? }
As always, I welcome your thoughts!
Summerland Ornamental Gardens – this link for more information.
If you live (or visit) the Penticton/Okanagan area – almost anytime is a nice time to visit the Summerland Ornamental Gardens. These pictures are recent, and as you can see Dave caught a snake and posed for pictures.
The grounds are rarely busy with people. So bring along a few things to really stretch out your visit. Bring a picnic, some drinks, a frisbee or just a book and blanket and stay awhile.
It is quiet, refreshing and I recommend it for a visit.
After only a little bit of searching I found another yoga blog that I liked, and was encouraged by.
. A favorite topic of mine is headstands because there is something special about them. I remember learning by flipping my legs up against the wall and then the first time I started doing them in the middle of the floor. The key is keeping your forearms shoulder distance apart, you use your forearms like a tripod but keep your elbows tucked in tight as you can when you lower head into position. The balance and and control comes from your arms between your elbows and your hands. Check out ” Raw Satisfaction Yoga”
How to write a humorous speech! This is something I wanted to research, and fortunately there are great bloggers like John Zimmer. This genius writes Manner of Speaking and shares his experiences with Toastmasters.
Since the Toastmasters Club is worldwide it is cool to connect with John and get his assistance, tips, and insights on writing a humorous speech. Thanks John! – You are an INSPIRATION!
I still have no idea of how these blogs will be received however for me the book NVC (see previous post) has given me insights on how I communicate. I can see how diagnosing, labeling, and being judgmental has alienated me from better connecting; PLUS I think it spawns a lack of inside peacefulness. (that’s difficult to explain, sorry)
Chapter Two is about opening ourselves to be able to be compassionate and open to connecting with others. The author explains how growing up that I, and others, learned to communicate without revealing what was going on inside myself.
Author’s Example: When I encountered people or behavior that I either didn’t like or didn’t understand, I would react in terms of their wrongness. If my teachers assigned a task I didn’t to do, they were ” mean” or “unreasonable“.
Example #2 If my partner wants more affection than I’m willing to give her, she is “needy and dependent“. But if I want more affection than she is giving me, then she is “aloof and insensitive”.
Example #3 If my colleague is more concerned about details than I am, he is “picky and compulsive“. On the other hand, if I am more concerned about details than he is, he is”sloppy and disorganized“.
The author’s goal to communicate is that all such analyses of other human beings by ourselves are tragic expressions of our own values and needs.
When I read this chapter I learned how when I use comparison, or judgement I block awareness of others.
I had to read this chapter twice because it was such an important concept to learn. I saw myself in this chapter and realize that this book will likely require a second reading because it cracks open life long habits. Fortunately in the subsequent chapters the author does a wonderful job of showing the reader how AND what to do to in order to allow positive, clear and productive communication in all types of situations.
I hope you can see how and why I am sharing about this book, NVC.
