No such animal as the Ideal Husband

There is no such animal as the Ideal Husband but there is a play by the same name penned by Oscar Wilde (OW).  Periodically I like to reread OW plays as they are so clever, insightful and humorous.  I am certain everyone has heard of The Importance of Being Ernest, which undoubtedly was his Mona Lisa.

an-ideal-husbandThe story of The Ideal Husband rotates around blackmail, an idealistic spouse, and her guilty but reformed husband. Read it yourself HERE on PDF.

Perhaps I can tempt you to read this play with some quotes from it.

Ah! The strength of women comes from the fact that psychology cannot explain us.  Men can be analysed, women ….merely adored.

You think science cannot grapple with the problem of women? 

Science can never grapple with the irrational. That is why it has no future before it, in this world. 

And women represent the irrational?

Well dressed women do.

All of OW’s plays have the clever one-liners and situations that are so enjoyed on a stage, especially when shared to the audience by a droll actor with the knack for timing.

Wonderful woman, isn’t she. Talks more and says less than anybody I ever met.   She is made to be a public speaker.

Unless you read the play you cannot appreciate it, much as a trailer is only meant to tease the person to watch and not really evaluate the value of a movie.

The idealistic spouse is helped by her husband’s best friend Lord Goring, a wise man of the world, he tells her “Life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not.  I think that in practical life there is something about success, actual success, that is a little unscrupulous, something about ambition that is unscrupulous always.”

The wife put her husband put her husband on a pedestal, and perhaps the lesson of the play could be summed up ”

Why can’t you women love us, faults and all? We all have feet of clay, women as well as men; but when we men love women, we love them knowing their weaknesses, their follies, their imperfections, and love them all the more, it may be for that reason.    It is the not the perfect but the imperfect, who have need of love. 

Interesting how OW wrote about relationships so well, and with insight and humor.

Women are never disarmed by compliments. Men always are. That is the difference between the two sexes.

If you want to learn more about Oscar Wilde (OW) – Wikipedia is linked here. 

Here is a wonderful adaption, and I trust you will enjoy it!

 

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My New Year’s Resolution – To Get A Divorce

A friend shared that she got together with her girlfriends and they were all playing with electronic devices, she had been looking forward to that time with them, NOT their devices.
The most precious gift we have to share is our time, choose whom you share it with wisely.

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The Secret to Achievement is ….

You could be different from me, and be a total achiever. You decide you want to do something, you figure out the steps, and then you do it. Every time.

Or..you might be a person who has visions of what they want to accomplish, places you want to travel to,  a fitness level you want to achieve, a language you want to learn but it’s not happening.

I suppose there are ways to achieve that are as successful as there are people who make them work, but there are many people who stall and putter out at the vision stage,  I suspect those people are the majority.

elephantThe accomplishment of big goals is described as “Eating an Elephant” which none of us can do in one sitting (have you seen the size of elephants !, I have a hard time with big plate of spaghetti . )

You achieve the eating of an elephant, and the accomplishment of big goals in small digestible chunks,  this is just an illustration – no elephant recipes to follow, I promise !

The secret to Achievement is……..Starting where you are. Start. Start. Start. Think of anything you want to achieve, there must be a small step you do today. Take that first step, and work on the next small bite tomorrow and keep going.  Write down your starting date, keep track every day you take another “bite” – set a goal of 5 days nonstop progress,  and then keep setting those goals.

journalStart where you are, and keep a written record; huge how both these work together.  Live your life with as few regrets as you can, and count your blessings, often.

 

 

There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.   – Buddha

Thanks for reading!

 

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Positive Living from Negatives

Most lives will have some negative , how we see it will effect a lot .📝

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It’s been a long hard day, and I’ve been working like a dog

Have you had a long hard day? or do you just like this song and recognized it right away? Did you start to sing it and did you smile? 

electricThis post  is dedicated to my lovely wife, Sue. She puts in the long days, and I appreciate it.

She likes to come home, put up her feet, grab something warm to drink, and slump down onto the floor so she can watch TV and get her neck rubbed.  I get to sit behind her and watch TV while rubbing her neck. It’s nice because she likes it, but I love it. Instead of being detached watching, I feel more whole.

Funny how in life there are moments like those that hold such meaning and we get confused about their real value. Those moments are the ones to hold on to,  and I do.

2013-08-19 20.44.21I am grateful always for those moments, and will soak up as many of them as I can because life can be sudden, and change.  The real priceless moments can be snatched away, moments like hugging your family, playing monopoly around the table, opening stockings on Christmas morning.

Have a  holiday moment today – take a priceless moment and clutch it to your heart,  especially if you can do it with someone who’s put in a long, hard, day.

Thank you for visiting!  – D

 Hard Days Night
( J. Lennon, P. McCartney )

It’s been a hard days night,
And I’ve been working like a dog,
It’s been a hard days night,
I should be sleeping like a log.
But when I get home to you
I find the things that you do
Will make me feel alright.

You know I work all day
To get you money to buy you things,
And it’s worth it just to hear you say,
You’re gonna give me ev’rything.
So why on earth should I moan,
‘Cos when I get you alone,
You know I feel O.K.

When I home ev’rything seems to be right,
When I home feeling you holding me tight, tight, yeah.

It’s been a hard days night,
And I’ve been working like a dog,
It’s been a hard days night,
I should be sleeping like a log.
But when I get home to you
I find the things that you do
Will make me feel alright.

So why on earth should I moan,
‘Cos when I get you alone,
You know I feel O.K.

When I home ev’rything seems to be right,
When I home feeling you holding me tight, tight, yeah.

It’s been a hard days night,
And I’ve been working like a dog,
It’s been a hard days night,
I should be sleeping like a log.
But when I get home to you
I find the things that you do
Will make me feel alright.
You know I feel alright.

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Contentment

Think positively, be grateful for the gifts you have, practice random acts of kindness, share smiles, enjoy quiet times.

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By contentment, supreme joy is gained. Those are the words that describe Samtosha, one of the Niyamas in the Yoga Sutras. I like contentment. It means to be happy with things as they are and not look to persons, places or things outside of use to be happy. Who wouldn’t want supreme joy? And yet, the ego has a way of sneaking into our minds.

Wouldn’t it be great to have a wonderful relationship with that special someone? I would be so happy if only… My friends are going on vacation to the desert. They invited me to come along, but I have this other commitment. Maybe I should change my plans. If I don’t go now, when will I get another chance like this? We would have so much fun… I’ve always wanted a brand new Jaguar and I can’t believe my eyes. I just inherited $50,000. I’m…

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