Where does time go? – Part 4 of 4

Welcome back to “Life and Random Thinking” – I decided to write a sequel to the first post with the name “Where Does Time Go?

I decided this was essential because I asked for comments on three topics in my first post, and it’s only fair to share why I was thinking about those topics.

  1. You can’t live in the past.  
  2. Delinquents come in all ages. 
  3. Comfort zone – place to avoid.

Thank you friends for your comments on the above topics, each one represents some thoughts I have had about blogs.  – David ♥



I checked and walking the road to the top is 2.85 km at Giant’s Head Mountain in Summerland. The road is my choice right now, the grind and the friendly giant trails I will try, if I can, when I get more fit!

Comfort zone – place to avoid

Let me make it clear,  I enjoy being comfortable.

I also am not a person who does mountain top hikes that last weeks, I don’t sleep on the ground, and I don’t have abs that you can grate your cheese on.  Not even close! ha ha

When I scrutinize my day, I realize that sometimes I am tempted to spend too much time on the couch, being comfortable, reading, relaxing.

They say black holes are so strong that light can’t escape – my couch must have a tractor beam on my gluteus maximus just as strong sometimes.

I believe it is excellent to relax but not all the time, and not too much either.

Balance right?


I know your life is busy, chores, hobbies, life, visiting and so on.

You deserve some comfort in your day and everyone does but one of the comfort zones I am talking about is when you stop challenging yourself.

Failed anything lately?  Have you done anything lately that risked failure?

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Are you still learning? Mentally and physically I think we have muscles that will become flabby and weak unless our lives include habits that stretch us.

It’s the stretching that is the goal and an achievement on its own.


I think I am still a Toastmaster, after 14 years, because I am uncomfortable speaking.  I am not a self-confident person naturally.

Speaking in front of a group, giving toasts, sharing an inspirational topic or being on the executive of a board etc are all muscles that I must regularly exercise and stretch. If I don’t they will quickly decline and disappear.

The comfort zone is tempting, but I would rather overcome my fear, and avoid the regret.


I suppose I relate it to when I was 15 years of age. In school we had sock hops in the gym.  I sometimes stood along the wall for part of the sock hop.

Remember Elton John’s Crocodile Rock?

I could hear the music, I could see the dancing but it was safe, and comfortable along the wall.  But not much fun.

I had to risk my comfort zone and get on the floor if I wanted to enjoy the sock hop, and I knew I was not a dancer!

The noon-hour dance was over quick, and I wanted my memories to be doing and not watching/wishing.



In Assos, or Behram, Turkey with my Sue

I think the memories I treasure the most are the experiences. The times with my family doing things, not my alone time.

They aren’t the popcorn on the couch moments either,

  • they are the mountain top moments,
  • the moments laughing with my son, and daughter
  • the memories teaching my son and daughter to ride a bike
  • sheltering from the rain watching a storm with my daughter
  • the meandering bike rides with my son,
  • the snorkeling discoveries in Hawaii,
  • the trials of travelling, getting lost, catching the plane just in time,
  • the baseball game trips with my son, the 7th inning stretch song together
  • the unexpected discovery of a bear on my picnic table when I was camping in my teenage years

I will fill my picnic basket of memories with experiences, and challenges and not regrets.

Those treasures can be pulled out and enjoyed from time to time, but I want to fill that basket to the brim.

The comfort zone tempts me, and I will visit, but I will also leave from time to time.

Contrary to what we usually believe, … the best moments in our lives are not the passive, receptive, relaxing times.

The best moments usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limit in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult or worthwhile.

Optimal experience is thus something we make happen. Mihalyi Csikszentimihalyi

Coasting downhill is wonderful for skateboards, but life is full of ups and downs, and going uphill gives us muscles and those wonderful endorphins!

Final thought: As I was breathing heavy, and dragging my feet uphill Giant’s Mountain the other day, I thought to myself: If Mount Everest was flat, there would be no celebration. 

Barracuda lunch!

Thanks for reading and visiting. My thoughts on this post seem to be disorganized a bit, and my comments zigzagged but I hope they were meaningful to you.

– Blogging friends I appreciate you! – David

About dfolstad58

I live in the South Okanagan. BC. I enjoy reading, exercise, toastmasters. spending time with my son, my daughter, & her husband , and my patient wife. I try to respond personally to every comment on my blog, and in this way I hope to get to know my readers a little bit and and am able to thank readers for their encouragement on what they liked and suggestions on what they would like to see me try in order to improve.
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19 Responses to Where does time go? – Part 4 of 4

  1. Sandra J says:

    Wonderful words of encouragement, even our minds become flabby and week if we stop stretching them also. 🙂 Have a great day Dave.


    • dfolstad58 says:

      Thank you Sandra. I hope you are having a wonderful summer. Saw an awesome bald eagle yesterday and grey heron, too far away to get a picture but still always love to see them. Best wishes – David

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      • Sandra J says:

        Thank you David, yes the summer is going very well, almost to fast. I went down to the river yesterday and to my surprise I saw one Eagle also. I have never seen one there this time of year. Hope that doesn’t mean an early winter.

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  2. LA says:

    I’m all about experiences. That’s what I remember


  3. Yes, your post is really meaningful to me. I am someone who constantly needs to push herself out of “my created” comfort zone. And like you rightly pointed out, the best memories are made when I step out and stretch myself. I enjoyed reading


    • dfolstad58 says:

      Thank you SB for adding your comment. It’s the comments that keep me posting, I want to meet the people who read my posts! I am grateful you shared what you liked and why. I agree with you, that’s why people set goals, and try new things – to stretch themselves and see what they can do, if they dare and they try. – best regards! David

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  4. Love this, it’s like my mind that rambles and flows if it’s own accord! I too am spending to much time relaxing on the couch, writing, and reading the work of fellow bloggers! Love the reminder that it’s time get get out of my comfort zone and stretch myself. Great post! C


    • dfolstad58 says:

      Cheryl we are alike! I have started to use timers all the time, on my phone or on google home. If I sit down to watch the W Network (I like that channel, it’s fun and relaxing) I let myself watch for 45 minutes and move to something else. Same with reading, exercising, and even chores. I feel like I am more in control or something; I am tempted to watch a two hour show but I stop, and I don’t really want to exercise but I console myself that I have set a timer for 20 minutes! LOL, am I weird? – David

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  5. lghiggins says:

    This is a particularly appropriate post for this time of restrictions. There are things we can do, if we look for them. Going to Turkey is not one of them, but there are others closer to home that are just as meaningful. I love the Teddy Roosevelt quote–so challenging!


    • dfolstad58 says:

      thanks Laura, Ted was an inspiring person. He once gave a speech after being shot point blank in the chest. He was saved by his eyeglass case! He left his bloody shirt and gave his speech regardless. Wow, I bet people remembered that speech. The bullet lodged in his chest muscles, and since he was a hunter (known as the bull) he knew it was safer to leave it in and there it remained for the rest of his years, and he had quite a few left. – I appreciate your comments! – David


  6. Beautiful post – well said. I love the photo of you and Sue. 🙂


  7. David, I really enjoyed this series, with so many terrific bits of honesty and wisdom that I dare not list them for fear of leaving something critical out of the mix. Good show!


  8. Southern Patches says:

    Wonderful words!!! And so inspiring. I love to learn something new I do believe it keeps us young no matter how old we are.


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