For Better or Worse

2013-04-06 08.04.22

Can I look now?

For Better or Worse

What I say, what you say, our words have an effect on others.

Almost daily, I am reminded to be conscious of what I say.  I must not speak too quickly without thinking as I risk overreacting,

 I have the power to make the situation better or worse.

I have heard it said that a single negative statement needs SIX positive statements to balance out the harm done.

The Power of Words,

can be destructive.  How many times when I was younger I know I reacted very poorly to what were minor situations in the big perspective.

Looking back I regret I did not respond more with the empathy for the person knowing now how I reacted would be remembered much longer than what sparked my reaction.

I imagine every parent learns this lesson as they gain perspective with age.

The Power of Words 

is amazing.  Looking back I can’t undo my past reactions,  but I hope in the future my words will be for the better and not the worst, in every situation.


This lesson about what we say is important is illustrated in a speech by Mohammed Qahtani “The Power of Words”

In Mohammed’s speech he tells three short anecdotes in his eleven minute speech:

  • about teaching his young son a lesson,

  • why academics have a hard time warning us of the dangers of climate change,

  • and how a single phone call ruined a friend’s life.


Mohammed’s speech has been enjoyed more than a million times, I hope you will enjoy it by clicking here.

Thank you for reading, and visiting my blog. Thank you for patience with me on the days like this when I am thinking out loud. – David

About dfolstad58

I live in the South Okanagan. BC. I enjoy reading, exercise, toastmasters. spending time with my son, my daughter, & her husband , and my patient wife. I try to respond personally to every comment on my blog, and in this way I hope to get to know my readers a little bit and and am able to thank readers for their encouragement on what they liked and suggestions on what they would like to see me try in order to improve.
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20 Responses to For Better or Worse

  1. Very enjoyable. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

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  2. Susan Folstad says:

    What an awesome speech and blog post too. I loved the speech. A great message, funny and poignant. The bible say that ‘words have the power of life and death’. In Proverbs 18:21.

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  3. says:

    Very well said. The words once said can’t be taken back. We need to think twice before speaking and also thinking about how will this affect the other person. In our childhood, we never think of what to say and what not to and that’s the innocence. You always write by your heart, David! 😊 I enjoy reading your posts!

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  4. robynbird says:

    Words. A blessing and a curse.
    We all make verbal mistakes, but by being mindful, we can make a positive difference!
    I loved this post, thank you 😊

    Liked by 3 people

  5. Hi. What you say is very true. And, unfortunately, it can be a difficult lesson to learn.

    Neil Scheinin

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  6. A reminder that we all need to think before we speak. Thank you.

    Liked by 3 people

  7. Dina says:

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful video with us.🙏🏻 Plenty of food for thoughts 💭

    Liked by 2 people

  8. George says:

    That was really interesting, Dave. I can see why he won. Those two short words, “I’m busy” changes a life. Thanks for sharing.

    Liked by 2 people

  9. dfolstad58 says:

    Thank you for checking out the video George.

    Liked by 1 person

  10. What a great share Dave. Thanks. Maya Angelo said people won’t remember what you said but they will remember how you made them feel. But it’s the words that precede the feelings, isn’t it? Sometimes, I need daily reminders of this. Today it came from your blog!

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    • dfolstad58 says:

      Dear Ilona, I am so appreciative of your encouragement. Words can cut or nourish and that’s the danger and the opportunity in life. Maya was a smart person and that is a quote that I try to be guided by. 🤗

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  11. Dear David, your heart is good. 🌻

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