Best Advice I’ve ever received

Having a grateful attitude is perhaps the way to happiness and contentment. Enjoy the visual poetry that is this beautiful Ted video, the creator put so much effort into making it, please enjoy it in full.

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I received this advice in the crowd, listening to a father’s day sermon. By the way, I think I am repeating myself but it was really impactful, and how many sermons do you remember?

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Seriously, the message was about being “thankful” and it underlined to me to choose this attitude for myself. I try hard to choose this frame of mind and keeps me from wishing more of this and that.

Best advice, before complaining, Count your blessings first, and then see how you feel.

Thanks to a very good friend, I learned of an amazing video yesterday called Gratitude.

It is an amazing and inspirational message, about the revealment of happiness  and I hope you will watch it, and comment. Watch a few minutes to see what I mean, especially after minute 4:17 and onward. 🙂

Thank you for visiting my blog, Take care.

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Call Me Skywalker #2

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To read Call Me Skywalker from the beginning click HERE

Stella died a month ago.  Luke’s mind still saw her face easily, picturing her laughing and singing along with the Beatles.  He half smiled, and his eyes twinkled remembering how she always seemed to be singing a song or pieces of a song during the day.

Stella loved to infect him with a melody of song so after he sat with her, laughed with her, the rest of his day had these earworms of pop music popping up.

Luke chuckled, one week she kept singing “Bennie and the Jets” and he walked around singing Bennie, Bennie, Bennie and the Jets all week. He smiled but there was a tear in his eye.

Luke was doing better now.  After the funeral he had felt dazed, his face felt numb and it almost seemed like he had his face pressed against a window looking in on the world because he felt detached.

Today it was a month.  Stella had given him a letter only to be opened after a month after her death. Luke turned the envelope over in his hand, her handwriting on the outside, his name, and a little smiley face. Oh how he missed her laugh, her song snippets. His lungs felt parched, and his throat dry. Time to open it.

Dear Skywalker, thank you for all the loving and laughter you gave me. (Luke nodded, his eyes were watering, his inner voice – thank you, thank you)  I have flown the coop just like we expected and I know the last month has been difficult for you,  but you never complained.  There are times we need to just “Hold On” (just like the Dan Hill song remember?)  and times to let loose and set free.  I know you will be alright. My daughter was deployed and she will be upset she could not be there when I was in the hospice.  Will you be with her for me please?  Sophie is a beautiful girl and I didn’t want to be in her way when she told me of her submarine assignment. Be there for me please, Share the laughter we had together the last months with Sophie,  hold her hand like you held mine.

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Paper in hand, envelope torn on the floor, he sat still and reread the note. Sophie.  I can be there for her for Stella. Poor Sophie, coming home and her Mom gone. The address is there, and I will go there and put a note in her mailbox to contact me about her Mom. I don’t know what to say but I will do it.

Luke on assignment felt better and a Beatles snippet came in his mind as he wrote his note to Sophie for delivery and sealed it in an envelope.

Bright are the stars that shine
Dark is the sky
I know this love of mine
Will never die
And I love her

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Call me Skywalker

God’s providence or karma brought them together – it changed both their lives.

He was just graduated from nursing school,  and turned 25 years old. Excited to be starting his new job at a hospice, he moved to a whole new city to start his career. The first day on the job he met Stella.

Stella was 83,  and she found the days long, dark and lonely at the hospice.  She was looking out the window at the rain, when her new caregiver came to bring her breakfast at 7:30 a.m.

Good morning Stella, my name is Luke but please call me Skywalker. Today is my first day and I will be your caregiver. How are you today?

He looked deep into Stella’s eyes and for the first time in weeks she felt like she was in the centre of someone’s attention, and not somewhere out on the edge.

Stella looked into his eyes – If I can call you Skywalker , you can call me Star. Tell me about yourself.

So he did. He opened up like a burst dam in the middle of rainstorm.

Skywalker talked about his collection of glass slugs, his love of science fiction old movies,  his sweet tooth, his favorite tea (peppermint) and how he became a nurse.

Star soaked it all in, all the stories and felt like a girl on a first date memorizing all Skywalker’s stories. The best part though was that Skywalker was looking at her the whole time and she knew that he wanted to hear her favorite things, and was really interested in the telling.

So the telling, and the sharing began and flowed. She talked about working on a freighter, her favorite holidays, her collection of bookmarks, and her love of old science fiction movies.

Hours became days, and they were as comfortable together as a flannel shirt and jeans. Relaxed and naturally warm together they were, they brightened up the autumn days that grew darker for themselves and warmed everyone  they met.

Unspoken was the understanding that Stella was not going home. The blood pressure checks, and the gradually increasing pain relief through her IV were a constant overshadowing but still the closeness developed between Skywalker and Stella.

They enjoyed a gift of invisible sunlight days but the clouds beckoned and finally Star felt the weakness bone deep and waved Skywalker to sit beside her.

A feeling of dread gripped his heart as he pulled a stool close, and held her bony fingers in his warm pink hands.

Almost a whisper she spoke – Luke,  I love you. Thank you for taking care of me, the last few weeks have been wonderful getting to know you. 

Almost a whisper and his eyes wet with tears – Star, I love you too. Thank you for being my first patient. I will never, never ever, forget you and our talks together.

Nothing else was said. Luke stayed there and held Stella’s hands as her eyelids closed and she slept for the last time.

Sweet dreams Star.

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Many thanks for reading my little original story, I hope you enjoyed and envisioned Skywalker and Star. Your thoughts and comments are welcome.  If you want to read the next “chapter” go to this link.    

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All that will be left will be the stories

All that will be left when I die will be the stories.  I will explain in a moment.

My daughter will always be my little girl, but now she’s a grown woman and a wife also to her husband.

She always has had a strong character and I am thankful of her willingness to share her opinion.

A few Christmases past, she came into the living room and commanded we turn off the tv and we go get the Monopoly board out.  Right then, as in instantly.

monopoly 1The tradition was born.

I am so thankful for the Off switch on the tv. After using this very useful switch we regularly sit down and play board games all together as a family, at Christmas, Easter, summer or whenever.

I have a good time playing these games regardless that I am consistently, and some would say, predictably, trounced on a regular basis.

I am looking forward to holidays again this year as my son, and daughter, son in law, patient wife and family and friends are all willing with us to turn off the tv and play board games.

All that will be left when I die will be the stories. Stories of time spent doing things, playing board games, trips we took, and other interaction stories.

I have those stories with my family from growing up.  I want my family to have those stories to remember also.

Christmas will be another opportunity to make some stories. I will use it.

Just being together will be lost as memorable,  the menus of meals we shares will be forgotten, the clothing we wore won’t matter, what movie we watched together will never come to mind but I’m believing that the stories will remain of time spent playing games, taking walks, and hopefully some loving hugs.

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25 Ways to Say “I Love You” Without Saying a Word

I don’t like long lists but this one is ok because it’s not about the list, it’s about having a mindful kind love, and a heart that smiles.

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25 Ways to Say “I Love You” Without Saying a Word

by  Winifred M. Reilly

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Recently, on a cross-country flight, my husband and I were seated on opposite sides of the aisle. Several times, he leaned toward me to ask, “Would you like a bite of my sandwich?” “Can I get you some water?” Once he offered to share the last bite of his cookie. A while later, he reached over and put his hand my arm, just to say, “Hi.”

At the end of the flight the woman next to me said, “Your husband really loves you. I can tell.”

And she’s right. He does.

As couples, we express love through our everyday actions — our gestures of kindness, our generosity, our attention, our touch.

We say, “Drive safely.” “Take an umbrella.” We kiss each other goodnight.

And our spouse hears,”I love you,” in a way that touches more…

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A Memorable Evening out for dinner +

 

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relaxed and in the moment

I was recently on a holiday with my son, and it had many memorable moments. Most sadly will slip away through my fingers like when I try to hold a cup of water in my hand.

Some drops will stay and I will be glad, happy that I stopped with him and we stared out at the sunset over the Gulf of Mexico and just drank it all in together. Our arms over each other’s shoulder, not talking,  seabirds swirling and diving before they dove headlong into the calm shore waters.

I am not great at living in the moment. In fact I am terrible at it, and a calm moment usually means I am guiltily thinking of something I intended to do, planned to do, and still am procrastinating on.

Those thoughts creep in.

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Can I look now?

There I did it again!  Drat.

Still  this  Dinner in the video would be a memorable evening out and one that maybe for a few seconds you along with me would be distracted enough to live in the moment.

I hope you like it, a lot of people have.  I thought of post title that was more scintillating but decided I would let it pass, but I wonder if it would have increased readership. Ha!

Thanks for taking the time, and I hope you are looking forward to some memorable moments.Viva Life’s distractions! May you live a life filled with distractions and memorable moments and carry on with your day smiling!

 

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