Let’s all be Candles

Dear WordPress friends, my morning today started when I sat in the dark living room and soaked up the glow from our Christmas tree.

It was a brief time of contemplation which quickly lead me sending off a few notes of gratitude to people in my life.

The trees are bare of leaves this time of year and bending from the stiff breeze so I made some holiday spice tea (it has a sweet cinnamon taste) and decided to tackle some of my overdue reading of blog posts. Perhaps this evening will lend itself to a ride and this afternoon a walk along Okanagan lake.

Jane’s post “Peace on earth, goodwill towards all” was the perfect inspiration for my day. Link HERE

Jane’s post was of light, candles, and hope. Hope is so important and as we head into 2025 I hope we can all look forward to it seeing opportunity, and invitations rather than something other.

It seems to me that I rarely go a week without telling my “Two Percent story” and that perhaps is my “candle” story. Link Here

I told the 2% story to an IT person for Interior Health last week and it lead to a chat where we will meet in person and have lunch in the New Year. We had so much in common as both of us grew up in Vancouver in the 70’s and were even carhops at White Spot (different locations).

I told it again when I said yes to a first time experience in a radio play on Valentines Day in 2024. It was very fun and I met the author of the radio play ten minutes before we recorded the play. A treat and it turned well and it lead to an on-air interview where I told the “Two Percent” story again – all about hope that my wife inspired when I told her my doctor’s news.

It’s December 24th, the stores are filled with men doing their last minute shopping. Perhaps the stores should be “men only” on December 24th. 🙂

In the last two weeks we have had beautiful weather and nothing like the minus temperatures that my dear relatives face in Alberta and Saskatchewan.

It’s been glorious to be out and enjoy on my bike on a walk – see below.

A few days ago I was crunching snow and admiring the calm lake waters and wondering if the lake birds were loons as I watched them dive. Some other ones in black and white and I wished again for a real telescopic lens on my camera.

It’s a mild winter here and I was riding my bike on ice free streets last night in the dark. ♥

I was lit up in lights on my jacket and on my bike. I was riding with my son singing “Hark the Herald Angels sing” with a big smile on my face (behind the balaclava which kept it warm).

The pictures above are all local and taken recently. The light tunnel at the bottom is a delight to walk through and I do it often.

Thank you readers for inspiring me in 2024 to smile with your posts and comments. I feel that if I had the opportunity to chat with you in person I would feel immediately comfortable because I already know you a tiny bit.

As I scoot about my day and week – I will remember Jane’s invitation to be a candle and take a moment to shine by slowing down, taking a breath and soaking in the glow of what and who I truly have to give gratitude for in the past and always the hope of what lies ahead.

♥♥♥ David

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Fourteen (14) is a nice number

Good morning, afternoon or good day to you! Thank you for popping in to read this post – “Fourteen is a nice number” – it really is!

I have excellent reasons for liking the number 14 and it’s beyond the email notice from WordPress today that my blog is now 14 years old ! ? This is post number 878 ♥

My first blog post was about a mentor to many, so linking this post to that one is completely appropriate – Aunt Elinore – Always a Kind Word

I definitely do not spend as much time blogging as I used to and that’s a good thing for my health but I regret that now I am away from my computer more I miss out on reading blog posts that you invest your time and energy in. My loss and I know it, and feel some guilt there.

The time I spend away from the computer I try to spend it on people and my health. I do that in a variety of ways including time with my two grandchildren. I have a watch that counts steps and if it could tazer me to get going some days I would use that function also.

Fourteen is also a nice number because it was the number my son, my wingman above, wore throughout the different sports he played in his school years. As I sat on the bleachers, here and there and everywhere, I looked for his shirt with 14 on the back and now it seems second nature to always cheer for 14.

Fourteen is the day of the month that my patient, and encouraging wife was born! (confetti here!)

Fourteen is the day of the month that my sweet daughter was born (fireworks here!)

So you betcha I am glad about the number 14 !

Speech – Reach For the Sky

Okanagan lake pre sunset a couple days ago

Recently I did a short speech at Toastmasters and the theme of that speech I have looked forward to sharing with you. It was one part children’s story and one part unpacked meaning.

It’s a important theme, and I hope you have time to reflect on it before heading on with your day.

The theme was to relate how being a protege has effected me. Mentoring is a speech theme I have talked about before HOWEVER this speech objective was to have me relate from a different perspective; the protege experience – the mentee.

I gave it a great deal of thought, I have never had an “official” mentor in my life – I have never had a senior experienced individual take on that role formally.

Nevertheless I have concluded that I have been a protege my whole life.

How could I have been a protege without having an formal mentor?

Looking over my life it was obvious to me that my life has been blessed with mentors of all types: informal, inadvertent and even at a distance.

It could be swerving to avoid the metaphorical pothole ahead or the LITERAL one 🙂

Many examples come to mind now of informal mentors.

I had a boss who demonstrated the importance of showing appreciation in more than words and unexpectedly.

I have a friend who demonstrated generosity beyond measurement.

I have witnessed kindness and communication that I have tried to copy.

The list goes on but my time to share does not and so, to wrap up

That is to underline that you are a teacher, and mentor without doubt. It may be informally but there truthfully are people, many people, who in relation to you would say ” I will never forget that time.………” , and ” ………… showed me the importance of ……….. when they did …………”

Sadly these acknowledgements are often never vocalized until times of eulogies but it doesn’t have to be that way. That’s my challenge now, to not wait and to acknowledge now when people inspire me and I am doing that now with my fellow bloggers.

Thank you fellow bloggers~

– you inspire me!

Thank you readers who like and comment – you encourage me every day!

Thank you for allowing me to be your inadvertent, informal protege. ♥

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It’s my birthday! 45 again – 21 times in row

Everyone looks forward to their birthday I suspect. I hope for most people that it’s a day that is swamped with messages, some expected and some a surprise, of love and appreciation.

It’s my birthday and I’m glad to celebrate it as it feels somehow the spotlight is on me as a celebrity for the day.

But the really really nice thing about birthdays is that everyone gets to be a “celebrity” once a year, and that’s nice. Everyone needs to feel important and special and not only on their birthday, but it’s an equal opportunity reason to celebrate one another as we all celebrate our birthday.

Birthdays are an opportunity I feel to “spark joy” by giving someone in your life recognition, and a compliment by letting them know that their life made a difference to you, including saying WHY!

That’s the critical and most important segment of a compliment, the saying of the reason WHY when you give thanks. Compared to just “thanks” it makes the thank you meaningful and sound less perfunctory. It’s the whipping cream of the hot chocolate compliment; don’t give thanks without it. ♥

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According to Juli Fraga in her article called “How to spark Joy in your life” – giving joy to others can spark joy in your own life as well.

Savor small moments of pleasure

Most of us have at least one joyful interaction each day. However, it’s easy for these experiences to go unnoticed.

With practice, though, we can train our brain to look for joy. Among social scientists, this is called “relational savoring.” It’s our ability to enjoy and savor positive events and emotions.

To practice relational savoring, imagine you’re a joy detective. Identify one positive interaction that you’ve experienced recently. Perhaps it was a snuggle with your cat, a meaningful conversation, or dinner with a friend.

As you think of this memory, pay attention to how your body feels. Sensations such as calm and warmth often signify the emotion of joy. When you notice a positive sensation, try to savor it. Stay with the moment and notice any other pleasurable feelings such as gratitude, awe or happiness that arise.

Research shows that relational savoring can prolong our experience of positive emotions, which benefits our well-being in the long run.

(below are Juli’s suggestions to simultaneously create more joy in our own lives while also creating joy in others lives also)

– JULI FRAGA

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What a strange post for a birthday I suppose you might be thinking. You are probably correct (chuckle)

My birthday will quickly bite the dust, in less than 24 hours of course, but what I wanted to do in this post was share to this author’s (Juli Fraga) idea about “sparking joy” in others but also for our own benefit to create more joy in our lives. Everyone loves a “two-fer” !

The ways to create more joy in our lives are:

  1. Pay someone a compliment. Even saying “It’s nice to see you today” goes a long way. Watch the reaction you “sparked” and let their joy and happiness rub off on you.
  2. Savor Small Moments of Pleasure. In your busy life it can be easy to miss a hummingbird, enjoy the colours of autumn or simply slow down to taste a meal. Snuggle with your cat, have a meaning conversation or share a coffee with a friend and let it soak in a little before you move on. Juli says that calm and warmth you feel are indicators of joy and happiness if and when you slow down to savor your day.
  3. Smile, even when you don’t feel like it. Driving is when I notice many people lose their smile but smiling has a positive effect according to Juli to “release” dopamine and serotonin. When you can smile, and I wonder if a little smile with become your face’s go-to sparking joy (again).

It’s my birthday and to all my friends, and others who read this blog – I hope your life is full of smal and large moments to savor and bring a smile to your faces.

He was the first to state and promote the

concept of humanity’s need for hugs:

Thank you everyone for visiting, and reading, thrive everyone! ♥ – Hugs, hugs, hugs. ♥ David

Looking down the valley, relaxing reading – it’s nice to disconnect and the beaches are empty (virtually)

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I’ll tell you, but you have to keep it a secret

Last week my son and I meandered slowly through both floors of the beautiful Revelstoke Museum (even the building is charming) and enjoyed it immensely.

At the museum, constucted in 1925 and the site chosen by PM Wilfred Laurier in 1910

As I was signing the museum guest book I took the opportunity to peek at the comments of previous visitors and where they were from. I saw praise from visitors from Swiss, German, Norwegian and Australian visitors and many many more countries.

When trying to pick a title today I imagined all the visitors to Revelstoke going home and explaining about this beautiful mountain city they fell in love with but first they start by saying “

It is a smaller secret all the time though as the little town is definitely growing. The city of Revelstoke has a population of only 10 or 11 thousand but construction is happening and the businesses are busy.

The city was named to honour Baron Revelstoke (Edward C Baring) whose bank helped to save the Canadian Pacific Railway from bankruptcy by buying up all its unsold bonds.

Revelstoke was once one of the largest and most prominent communities in the interior of the province, mostly due to its importance as a railway center. Steamboat traffic on the Columbia river from the south connected with the Canadian Pacific Railway making this an important transportation hub.

The railway shaped the city of Revelstoke – want to know more? LINK

This summer I saw how popular mountain biking is in Revelstoke; gondolas take the riders to the top of the mountain resort (it’s a jewel of a view) and riders of all ages enjoy riding the trails down (over and over). I was awestruck at how young some of the riders were.

In the winter it’s the ideal snow that makes it an winter athlete’s dream – average snowfall of 246 inches and 92 snowfall days – the record for snow in one day is 16 inches. World class skiing, snowboarding, and snowmobiling as well as snowshoeing and cross country make this a 5 star destination for people who embrace winter.

The three days we were there we loved the ambience of the city and the bike culture including cargo bikes. Coffee shops stay open late for the young population to mingle; the average age in the mid-30’s for the city. Even in the evenings when it was raining it was sweet and delightful.

It was cool to see the layback style downtown, everyone walking, riding and cars moseying along. No one wears helmets there on bikes and it’s because of the respect of the Revy residents to the slower pace. Pedestrians wave thanks and the drivers are smiling when the cars need to stop at the corners.

It seems a tight knit community of like-minded people AND that made it so enjoyable for us to visit.

In addition to spots around town we also went to Mount Revelstoke National Park which is east of Revelstoke. We visited the 500 year old giant cedars which had a boardwalk through the rainforest of western hemlocks. It was so pretty and majestic at the same time. Many of visitors we chatted with were Swiss and German.

Here is a link to a SIX minute Youtube that shows the Giant Cedars Boardwalk – quicker than driving there eh? LINK to walking in the cedars

Now I told you, but you have to keep it a secret – Revelstoke BC – (wink)

Thank you my friends for reading – please add a comment! – David♥

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No Bright lights for this pre-birthday holiday

This has been the third year that I have taken a trip in late September with my son in advance of my birthday (as a gift to myself).

These are 2023 photos from our fall pre-birthday holiday escape. It was a three night holiday where we enjoyed being a tourist even though I grew up in East Vancouver, went to school at SFU, and lived in the lower mainland from 1965 to 1992.

The last two years we went to Vancouver BC, which is a beautiful city and September is warm and beautiful there. Volleyball is still being played (by hundreds) down at Jericho Beach and the sunsets on English Bay are scrumptious.

Stanley Park, Pacific Spirit Regional Park are two lovely spots to enjoy and close to downtown. There are also art galleries and a seemingly endless variety of restaurants to choose from. Of course, it’s what you might expect from such a large and cosmopolitan city.

THAT WAS 2023 ! My Next post is going to be about where we went this year, and just returned from – no bright lights but lots of smiles.

I look forward to soon sharing memories from the 2024 trip!

A few of you I hoped enjoyed the musical link in my previous post LINK Sister Golden Hair – it’s a song that I enjoy and I hope you did also.

Here is a link to another song that I find grabs me – but this time I will keep it a mystery for you to unpack. Mystery musical youtube link

This artist is well known but this is the first song of theirs that I have ever listened to. (my daughter was surprised) I only watched this video because I saw the bike ridden in the video was identical to my own and it caused me to check it out. Love the bike and Loved the song. ♥

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It doesn’t mean you ain’t been on my mind

Time seems to be speeding up on me and I have so many photos and thoughts I have thought about adding to my blog because I sincerely haven’t forgotten the lovely people who read and comment on my blog.

Well, I keep on thinkin’ ’bout you
Sister Golden Hair surprise
And I just can’t live without you
Can’t you see it in my eyes?
I’ve been one poor correspondent
And I’ve been too, too hard to find
But it doesn’t mean you ain’t been on my mind

Sister Golden Hair (with lyrics)

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Thanks to Linda for the”little boot” to post today – ♥ – you’ve been on my mind too 🙂

Peach King fruit stand in Keremeos does an impressive display every year with so many pumpkins – it must take days to set up. ♥

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I had it on my calendar to remember Jim Henson today. He was born September 24th, 1936 and he began his puppeteer magic in high school. Surprising eh?

What a legacy he left of bringing smiles and laughter to millions and millions.

Not forgotten and definitely living on in the hearts and twinkling eyes of children and adults everywhere; Happy birthday Jim.

Yip yip yip – there are so many fun characters that Jim Henson created or inspired but the Martians make me smile.

In this short skit – the Martians discover a telephone on earth and try to communicate with the ringing phone by looking at their earth dictionary and making sounds. (look it the old dial tone – that brings back memories) ♥

Moo yip yip Yip – link here

Closing thought – I gave a speech last week in Toastmasters called Train, Trust, and Jump.

In the speech I talked about these three principles as I gave the group their final instructions (make believe) before they take their first flying trapeze lesson.

I remind them of the voice commands they will hear including “Ready” (bend knees) and Hup (go!)

If there is something “dear reader” that is on your mind to do, a place to visit, something to try; I hope you begin the process soon – life slips away fast.

Hugs to you guys – ♥ David

Will you meet me in the middle?
Will you meet me in the air?
Will you love me just a little?
Just enough to show you care?
Well, I tried to fake it
I don’t mind sayin’, I just can’t make it – Sister Golden Hair ♥

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