Bike riding is like life

Bike Riding is like life?

I have enjoyed bike riding since I quite young, I am not sure but my first two-wheeler was when I was living in Quesnel, and I will guess I was 6 or 7 years old.

The bike was a bit large for me and I got on and off at first by climbing some steps at my home and climbing on, then pushing off and wobbled until I got up some speed.  That was a bit of problem, as you might imagine, because if I stopped anytime, I had to find something to climb up on to get back in the saddle, so to speak.

As I recall, the newspaper boy, who was also a neighbour, taught me to get on my bike like you saddle a horse.  I would place my left foot on the pedal, push off and swing my leg over. At first there were some falls, and this is why I say life is like bike riding.

In life, most of us has experienced some spills, it’s a normal part of life. When I was teaching my son to ride a bike, I told him – Everyone falls down on a bike 50 times, so when you fall, just cross it off the fifty and get back on.”  I have never heard him complain about falls, and he is an excellent rider.

 

This morning I went for my morning ride. My little city is nestled between two lakes, Okanagan and Skaha lakes, and so I rode north to the farthest lake, about a relaxed 20 minute ride, zigzagged about a little and rode along the lakefront and then headed south to Skaha lake by riding down the opposite side of the valley.

As I rode past a church this morning it had a sign out front that read “ Conflict is unavoidable, Combat is optional”.

As I kept on going south and eventually rode along Skaha lake I wondered if perhaps this was a thought I could share with my kind readers.

Perhaps if life is like cycling,  then those conflicts which are part of cycling are unavoidable and are almost to be expected, and then forgotten about. Some of our falls will be quickly forgotten, some may result in road rash, and picking gravel out and wearing a bandage; but those also heal and in time seldomly recalled.  

Now here I am uncertain what the metaphor for combat should be. Your ideas are welcome, I think it might be if we should try to react to life’s expected falls with grace, and not expect our lives to be bump free and all smooth sailing. Instead our response to the odd spills needs to be accepting, not a violent reaction. 

We all fall and we need to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, check for serious damage and go forward and enjoy the rest of our ride. We never know when it will be our last chance to enjoy the breezes on our faces.

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August 3, 2019 – Skaha Lake

 

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Poisoning ourselves is avoidable

Last week on July 24, I read an interesting article in the National Post (a Canadian newspaper).  The author was Linda Blair and it was titled “Holding a Grudge is self-toxic” expert says.

The article goes on to explain that indulging in a grudge and in particular feeling anger can also compromise our health. Experts say the effects can include higher levels of inflammation and susceptibility to chronic illnesses..

img_2124I thought this quote from Angela Buttimer (a psychotherapist from Georgia)  from the article was especially memorable “When we hold onto grudges and resentment, it’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.”

The column recommends that we try to avoid that self poisoning via forgiveness, and understanding (try to challenge your own fixed beliefs – it’s like trying to envision their behavior from their perspective).

Consider explanations for the other persons behavior, and utilize breathing and relaxation techniques to calm oneself and the breathing will assist your better judgement. Even slowing down and taking three slow breathes can centre our thinking, keep us from reacting and instead making a response that shows our better judgement.  A proper response can save a relationship.

img_1550In my experience, dealing with kidney disease since the early 1980’s, and other events over my lifetime-  I can honestly share I tried to avoid resentment, and anger about my health. I was aware to realize that my feelings were oblivious to the other party and I was simply preventing myself from enjoying life. 

It was the same with my health, if I handled my health problems with a calm and positive attitude I benefited from a myriad of ways including not isolating myself. I still tried to benefit from the strengthening power of gratitude, I always had much to grateful for.

I know I am not alone in facing trials, and not retaining a grudge is something you already know – holding onto negative feelings is only self stressing, and unhealthy, however I thought the article was a positive reminder for myself  and proof that indulging in negative thinking has a physical effect. 

While I have a moment, I want to share that the positive messages I receive on my blog are appreciated, and likely having a healthy result also.  As I am just barely 3 months from my recent kidney transplant (click for my post), and having good reports, I am doubly grateful. 

Wishing us all good mental and physical health. – David

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Sashay on by

I was inspired by another blogger today to post some photos. Thank you https://yeahanotherblogger.com

A recent post of his made me chuckle and he posted some pictures from his neighborhood walk, you may want to visit and check it out. It inspired me to share some sunflower pictures as he likes them as I do.

My street has no sidewalks, but it is on a quiet drive in a small city.  Many people walk here for exercise or cycle like I do in the mornings or in the evenings in the summer. Mid day like today you go to a closeby lake (we have two!) as it will be 35 degrees, or 95 Farenheit if you live in the US of A.

As people are out for a walk in this city they are likely to see deer, or quail. If  you walk at dusk or dawn you might spot a skunk, raccoon or even a coyote like I have.  Very rarely will a bear come down into the  city except in spring.

My father recently visited and he especially enjoyed the wildlife. A dozen little quail following their parents, their little feet a blur! Deer sleeping in the backyard were a treat he doesn’t have in his metropolitan city.

Allow me to invite you to take a sashay along my street and take a peek at the  sunflowers my son planted and nurtured, just sashay on  by. 

 

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YouTube – Handstands to Bruises by Chairlift with Tara Stiles

Get up and dance to this youtube post that I think you missed when i first posted it 😎🌻

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one hand handstand Image via Wikipedia

I love this youtube video, fun, cheerful, musical and different. I don’t know either the group or song but it’s cool (and I’m ancient).

Do you love the music ?

Not ready to try handstands on concrete in New York but an upbeat, fun, video ~ I’d give this a ten! I think it is so cool that people make their own videos, add music and are so darn creative.  I bet you will start to jive to the music if you listen/watch it twice!

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Just Standing there – Part 4

These short stories are all located in the Category- Just being creative. You can pick this category by going to the menu on the right.

I sincerely hope you read them all and follow along and provide your comments.

If you want to start from the beginning click here 

When we last left Allan and Mary,  they are sitting in separate cars, and had unknowingly parked alongside each other at the lakeside.  They both enjoy the Classic radio station and singing along with the radio.  Glancing to the side they discover they are both singing along to the identical song.  Each of them is curious about the other, but so far they have only made eye contact.

img_2243-effectsAllan stopped singing, an impossibly huge grin on his face.  Seizing the moment, despite his normal hesitancy,  he exited his car and circled behind to approach her driver door.

Mary’s heart was pounding, and she forgot to breathe when she saw Allan heading over to her car door. Not wanting to be craning her neck, she exited her car and stood between the cars and waited for Allan.

“I’m Allan, I saw you in the boat the other day and was hoping to actually meet you”, he smiled again “and here you are!”

“I remember you Allan, nice to meet you in person”, Mary smiled, but tried to be cool and not reveal just how glad she was to meet him.

“I see we like the same music, would you like to join me, or can I join you?”  smile, smile?

Awkwardly they agreed Allan would join her in her gold Chevy. Soon with the music playing, they relaxed and 20 minutes disappeared as they talked about songs, the lake, and tried on eye contact with each other, each heart silently pounding.

Soon Mary sneakily asked about his girlfriend.  He responded he had none, and a big check mark went off in Mary’s mind.  Of course, Allan was then open to ask her about her boyfriend, and he signed silently when she said there was no such person.

Trying to be cool, and silently hating herself for it, she said she had to go. Allan was disappointed but bold enough to ask for her phone number and if they could meet again and he would bring her non-fat latte and this time they could sit on one of the benches along the lakeshore walkway. They exchanged numbers, suppressing the grins.

They settled on meeting two days, 7 pm and chose the spot, Mary trying not to seem anxious but knew she was going to burst with excitement as soon as he drove away.

Allan shook her hand, smiled and left her car.

Mary backed up and left him Just Standing There, but with great satisfaction she saw him watching her in the rear view mirror.

Allan climbed into his car, and turned on the radio – Crocodile Rock by Elton John was starting.  He laughed at the lyrics when it came to the gold chevy, just like Mary drove 🙂

I remember when rock was young
Me and Suzie had so much fun
Holding hands and skimming stones
Had an old gold Chevy and a place of my own

But the biggest kick I ever got
Was doing a thing called the Crocodile Rock
While the other kids were Rocking Round the Clock
We were hopping and bopping to the Crocodile Rock

Thanks for reading, I hope you are enjoying my story about Allan and Mary.  Comments and suggestions always welcome. 

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Not the usual Hero


I have tried to start a routine of beginning my day with a bike ride for about 45 minutes. The evenings cool off and the mornings are the perfect temperature with the added bonus of peace and quiet.

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Okanagan lake, north end of Penticton

I am not getting up with the sun, I just head out for a ride somewhere between 6:30 to 7:00. It’s surprising how few people are active, and how wide open the streets are. Fortunately I ride mostly side streets and along paths which are car free zones.

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Okanagan Lake winter scene, statues of children playing

It’s the wild and crazy life of retirement, living in a small town. As I sit here typing in my back yard, there is a male and female deer standing 20 feet away under my cherry tree. They are actually washing each other which I haven’t observed before. They are fairly relaxed. Soon they will jump a fence and mosey on, but I know they will return. The male has young fuzzy antlers about 18 inches long, and big ears that swivel. Cute, but I hope they snack on raspberries and leave my tomatoes alone.

The last few days have had lots of moments like this, watching quail from this spot and their dozen or so of tiny cheeping offspring. The feet of them are a just a blur as they run along.

My little city of Penticton is small but it has everything, and being able to ride to two lakes (one at either end of town) is pretty cool. The closest lake, Skaha lake is just a few minutes away, less than two kilometres. The farthest lake, Okanagan lake, is about 7 kilometres and I can cycle there in about 20 minutes without working too hard. Click here to see a website about my little city.

My exercise benefit this morning was erased completely as when I returned home, I made blueberry pancakes for everyone. Everyone loved them, but I guess I made a few too many, so when everyone else stopped eating there were a few left.

I stepped forward, in true Superhero style, to save the day, and finished off those blueberry pancakes, after all breakfast is the most important meal of the day !

At this point my son with his usual humor cracked “not all heroes wear capes!

That wit sparked my smile and this post.
Thanks for reading, comments welcome. Big thanks to the readers who follow me regularly, I appreciate it.

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